Social Anxiety: Alcohol is not the Answer

I know the situation all too well. A friend invites you to a party. You want to go and be social. You want to stop sitting on your couch every Friday night with your cat, your blanket, and your Netflix. You want to be an interesting person with friends. But the idea of going to a party and talking to people gives you so much social anxiety. It makes you feel stressed, tense, panicked. It makes you want to hide inside of a hole. It makes you want to pull the blanket over your head and never go out of your apartment again.

I know how this is because I’ve been there. But let’s say you do muster up the courage and the energy to go to the party. When you walk inside and you start feeling anxious, as soon as someone offers you a drink, you take it. You chug a few drinks, take a few shots, until you feel more relaxed. You feel less inhibited. And suddenly you realize you aren’t socially anxious anymore. When this happens, it can feel like alcohol is the answer to all of your anxiety issues, but it isn’t.

If you start drinking to deal with your social anxiety, when will you ever stop? There are so many healthier ways to deal with social anxiety. Drinking may seem like an easy way out, but it’s not. Drinking is not only horrible for your health, but it can lead to serious conditions and destructive behavior. There are plenty of people who develop big drinking problems and it all started with them trying to cure their social anxiety.

It’s important that you find a healthier way to manage your anxiety. It’s also important that you admit to yourself any problems that you might have. You may discover that you need help, and that’s okay. It’s never bad to ask for health. Have a look at our resources below if you feel you need to ask for help.

Alcoholism Resources

Alcoholics Anonymous
Rethink Drinking

4 Things People with Social Anxiety Should Stop Feeling Guilty About

If you’re anything like I am, your social anxiety often leaves you with a large amount of guilt. You make plans with your best friend you haven’t seen in a while, but when the evening comes that you’re supposed to go out with her, you feel paralyzed with fear and anxiety. You feel obligated to go, and then you end up doing even more damage. It’s okay to take

People who have social anxiety need to take care of themselves. Introverts need to recharge until they feel okay to go out into the world again. There is a difference between healthy nervousness and crippling anxiety. Before you start feeling guilty about the way you handle (or don’t handle) social situations, please consider that you shouldn’t feel guilty about a number of things.t’s okay to take

It’s okay to take the time to recharge. It’s perfectly alright if you need to stay in, watch Netflix or read, take a bubble bath, meditate, just have some alone time. Doing these things is a great way to ensure that you will be okay for the next social function. You will be able to have more productive and enjoyable social time if you take the time you need to be alone and recharge when you are having social anxiety.

It’s okay to say no. You don’t need to feel like you need to say yes to every single opportunity that comes your way. If you make too many plans, that is a sure way to let social anxiety start to cripple you and destruct your life. Don’t feel like no is a dirty word. When you say no to other people and obligations, you are saying yes to yourself.

It’s okay to cancel plans. That being said, if you do say yes to too many plans and obligations, it’s perfectly okay to cancel plans. Make sure your friends know that you have social anxiety, and sometimes you just won’t be up to it. If they are really your friends, they will understand and be supportive. You don’t need to come up with some elaborate story. Just be truthful.

It’s okay to take care of yourself. People with social anxiety are often all too concerned with what other people think and whether or not they are making other people happy. This is all well and good, but your main concern needs to be yourself. You can’t take care of anyone until you take care of yourself first.

The next time you start to feel guilty about any of these things, stop and consider this list. It’s okay that you have social anxiety. Now you need to learn how to accept it, accept yourself, and love yourself.

5 Tips for Dealing with Social Anxiety

Social anxiety can be crippling. It can seem like it’s ruining your life if it gets really bad. You’re unable to enjoy time with your friends and loved ones. You’re unable to be at ease around new people. You may start relying too heavily on alcohol and medication. It can be a real problem.

Luckily, there are a few things you can try that will help you to cope with your social anxiety. Here is a list of a few things you might want to try.

1. Try therapy. Therapy is a great thing. Licensed professionals who really understand the condition of social anxiety will know how to work with you and help you to start to heal your social anxiety. There may be underlying mental issues that are causing your social anxiety, and a professional therapist will be able to help you work through them.

2. Start meditating. Meditation is a great habit for anyone to get into. It can greatly reduce stress, depression, and anxiety. It is most effective if you find a meditation schedule that really works for you every day. Try different guided meditations that are available on the internet.

3. Start a gratitude list. Sometimes anxiety can really be helped by taking the time every day to look at the things that you are grateful for. Did you wake up in a bed? Do you have running water? Do you have heat or air conditioning? Is there food in your refrigerator? Think about all of the things in your life that you have to be grateful for.

4. Find some safe friends. When you start to feel really socially anxious, it’s good if you have someone you can text or call who will tell you it will all be okay. It’s even better if you can take this person with you to social events so that you feel better.

5. Try medication. Medication should not be overused, and it should be a last resort. However, medication like Xanax and Valium really works wonders for some people when it comes to anxiety. Consult your therapist or psychiatrist.