If you’re anything like I am, your social anxiety often leaves you with a large amount of guilt. You make plans with your best friend you haven’t seen in a while, but when the evening comes that you’re supposed to go out with her, you feel paralyzed with fear and anxiety. You feel obligated to go, and then you end up doing even more damage. It’s okay to take
People who have social anxiety need to take care of themselves. Introverts need to recharge until they feel okay to go out into the world again. There is a difference between healthy nervousness and crippling anxiety. Before you start feeling guilty about the way you handle (or don’t handle) social situations, please consider that you shouldn’t feel guilty about a number of things.t’s okay to take
It’s okay to take the time to recharge. It’s perfectly alright if you need to stay in, watch Netflix or read, take a bubble bath, meditate, just have some alone time. Doing these things is a great way to ensure that you will be okay for the next social function. You will be able to have more productive and enjoyable social time if you take the time you need to be alone and recharge when you are having social anxiety.
It’s okay to say no. You don’t need to feel like you need to say yes to every single opportunity that comes your way. If you make too many plans, that is a sure way to let social anxiety start to cripple you and destruct your life. Don’t feel like no is a dirty word. When you say no to other people and obligations, you are saying yes to yourself.
It’s okay to cancel plans. That being said, if you do say yes to too many plans and obligations, it’s perfectly okay to cancel plans. Make sure your friends know that you have social anxiety, and sometimes you just won’t be up to it. If they are really your friends, they will understand and be supportive. You don’t need to come up with some elaborate story. Just be truthful.
It’s okay to take care of yourself. People with social anxiety are often all too concerned with what other people think and whether or not they are making other people happy. This is all well and good, but your main concern needs to be yourself. You can’t take care of anyone until you take care of yourself first.
The next time you start to feel guilty about any of these things, stop and consider this list. It’s okay that you have social anxiety. Now you need to learn how to accept it, accept yourself, and love yourself.